Are you fluent in love?

The people in my family communicate love in very different ways. Different things make them feel special. Different things make them feel warm and fuzzy inside. And so I find that each new day is a new step in the journey of learning to love well.

Fact or opinion? A question for handling criticism

‘Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.’ I don’t know who first said this, but I can’t understand why it became so popular. Because it’s quite simply wrong. I would re-render it as: ‘Sticks and stones may break my bones, but there’s nothing like words to bring you down.’Continue reading “Fact or opinion? A question for handling criticism”

Life is not a board game: Don’t ask me what’s next, ask me what’s now!

To the mum whose little ones aren’t speaking in sentences by the time they are six months…
To the teens who go through puberty later…

To the 18-year-old who didn’t get the results you wanted…

To the university graduate who didn’t get your dream job…

To the young adults whose friends are all getting married…

To the couples who haven’t got engaged yet…

To the marrieds who don’t want to/can’t have children right now …

Life is not a board game. Please don’t panic!

The superpower of self-awareness, and how to get it

It’s not often considered to be one of life’s superpowers. But you can’t be a good spouse, friend, employee, team player or leader without it. Leadership coach Reggie McNeal says it is the most valuable skill in a leader’s toolkit. Marriages can’t thrive in its absence. Friendships blossom in its abundance.

So what is it, and how do you get – or should I say – grow it?

Baby steps: post natal exhaustion and my road to self care.

I remember struggling to lift my limbs to get up off the sofa and crying fearful tears, ‘Have I pushed myself too far? Will this be permanent? Is this chronic fatigue?’

Back to school 2020/2021: burst bubbles and brave steps.

When all this is over, you will tell your children how brave you have been…

When weariness weighs you down, who holds you up?

Once upon a time there was a battle. A fight which felt impossible to win. The leader of one side was known for his great exploits. His courage. His bravery. His boldness. His unwavering confidence in his God. But in this particular story, he is vulnerable, he is weary, and he is tired. A groupContinue reading “When weariness weighs you down, who holds you up?”

Dealing with disappointment: When things don’t turn out as you hoped.

Sometimes things just don’t end up the way we want them to. When expectations are not met, disappointment rears its ugly head. When our hopes and dreams are out of line with reality, we are forced to admit we didn’t get something we wanted. So many of us are experiencing disappointment at the moment. 🌱DisappointmentContinue reading “Dealing with disappointment: When things don’t turn out as you hoped.”