When you’re asking yourself if you’re making a difference, remember that the tip of the iceberg is all you see

Never measure the fruit of your labours or the impact of your life only by what you see. Because what you see is only the tip of the iceberg.

Don’t put your post (or pearls) in the wrong place

I did a ridiculous thing today. Just when I think I can’t get any more daft, I reach another level. I’ve concluded that sometimes my head is so far ‘in my head’ that my environmental senses don’t work properly. Bill asked me to post a really important piece of correspondence this morning. He drove meContinue reading “Don’t put your post (or pearls) in the wrong place”

A question that could change your life

The next time someone does something that makes your blood boil, try asking yourself this question… it might just change your life!

An operation in resilience #2

Today my wee Zoë is having follow-up surgery on her arm. She smashed the bone just under her elbow in June and had plates and screws installed. I wrote a post during her first operation – I’ll admit, it was partly to distract myself from pacing the corridors and going out of my mind. ThisContinue reading “An operation in resilience #2”

Are you fluent in love?

The people in my family communicate love in very different ways. Different things make them feel special. Different things make them feel warm and fuzzy inside. And so I find that each new day is a new step in the journey of learning to love well.

Fact or opinion? A question for handling criticism

‘Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.’ I don’t know who first said this, but I can’t understand why it became so popular. Because it’s quite simply wrong. I would re-render it as: ‘Sticks and stones may break my bones, but there’s nothing like words to bring you down.’Continue reading “Fact or opinion? A question for handling criticism”

Dear mums, this might feel overwhelming right now, but you are stronger than you know, and braver than you think

As the nights bleed into days…
As time slips through your fingers
As you continue to show unconditional love, even when you’re on your knees

Remember…

You are stronger than you know, and braver than you think

Life is not a board game: Don’t ask me what’s next, ask me what’s now!

To the mum whose little ones aren’t speaking in sentences by the time they are six months…
To the teens who go through puberty later…

To the 18-year-old who didn’t get the results you wanted…

To the university graduate who didn’t get your dream job…

To the young adults whose friends are all getting married…

To the couples who haven’t got engaged yet…

To the marrieds who don’t want to/can’t have children right now …

Life is not a board game. Please don’t panic!

The superpower of self-awareness, and how to get it

It’s not often considered to be one of life’s superpowers. But you can’t be a good spouse, friend, employee, team player or leader without it. Leadership coach Reggie McNeal says it is the most valuable skill in a leader’s toolkit. Marriages can’t thrive in its absence. Friendships blossom in its abundance.

So what is it, and how do you get – or should I say – grow it?